Personality Test

I was listening to a seminar on line today. During the course of the presentation, she mentioned "personalities". I thought I wonder if there are any free personality tests to take on line. What is my personality?  (Okay, I have an idea but like validation!)

I found one http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp  and took the test. Skeptically of course, as I do with much of my life. Of course I kept wondering if they were going to charge me at the end to get the results. However, no charge just an evaluation of my personality based on answering the questions honestly. WOW did they nail me! I was amazed.

It helped me understand myself a little better and understand the ups and downs in life that I experience. If you would like to share your experience, I would love to hear your feedback.

The seminar I listened today was presented by my close friend's daughter. She spoke on  Authenticity. A favorite topic of mine. He mom first introduced the word to me a while back.  I began to hear the word more, looked it up, trying to decide what it meant to me. I wrote my feelings about the word in one of my past blogs.  So listening to Susanne was a special treat for me and offered me more insights.

I included her site: http://thesinglesgym.com/  It offers some free advice and also coaching, counseling, or group participation for a fee.

I was about to write a closing when an old childhood game came to mind and I decided to share it with you, somehow it felt right to share.

There was a game I played when we I was a kid. It was called Giant Step you would ask the leader if you could take a step and the leader would say if you could take a giant step or a baby step. The goal was to become the leader by taking steps forward and sometimes backward. It all depended on the leaders generosity and choices. However in the game of your life you are the leader, you decide the type of step to take to achieve your goal.  

That's all for today. Whoever you discover you are, love and accept yourself and believe with all your heart in your possibilities. I wish you self knowledge today and insight into where you are going and the joy of becoming all you are meant to be with His grace. 

God Bless, 
Shashana

Surviving a Narcissist

A friend shared the following site with me:  http://www.lisaescott.com/
It is about dating a Narcissist. Who me??? Well after reading through the site, I realized I have dated a few. Here I am again asking myself why do I make these choices?
In thinking about that question I realized I have grown. When I see unacceptable behaviour or a few red flags, I pay attention. My radar is switched on, my history books aka journals come out and I begin to write, consider, meditate, share with friends and try to discover what action is needed on my part.
Since I am a pro at reflection on my choices in men I can laugh at myself when I am once again thinking about a situation. I have only been married one time, however engaged to quite a few men. The movie Runaway Bride starring Julia Roberts is one of my favorites. Sometimes I describe myself as commitment phobic, other times I think just terrified of getting hurt.
Then I laugh and say to myself,  sweetie they are not knocking down your door, there is no one in the wings waiting for you to be hot to trot.
As I approach the golden years, the only thing golden being the blond highlights in my hair. I ponder how younger people view us older folk. Do they realize that even though the body looks old, the mind is still young and mentally a teenager inside the old plump, greying haired body. A plucked chin hair the other day was white!
Soooo..... would I accept a narcissist in my life? I truly hope not! I have learned never to say never since fate sometimes makes a fool out of my defiant personality.
The bottom line, no one is perfect, and after reading thru the site, I remembered someone in my life that fit the criteria and at the time quickly ended the relationship. I didn't label him then, but now I can. Narcissist!
I still in my heart hold out hope for Prince Charming to come along.
However, in the meantime, there is a quasi boyfriend in my life, we were once hot lovers and now, well now it is a hug, a laugh, a meal shared, We listen and share our aging experiences, which keeps us laughing a lot. We are both on Plenty of Fish, a free on line dating site. We share our experiences, mostly rejection, from anyone that appears interesting.
We occasionally talk about living together in our old age, a duplex, we say. We know it would be impossible for us to live under the same roof. We are too different and set in our ways. We enjoy spending time together when we are feeling lonely. Do I consider him Narcissistic? A little bit, but then again don't we all have a bit of narcissism in each of us?